【完整註解】Kinda Nice
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DAMOLA MORENIKEJI比較了「好人」與「善良的人」兩者的區別。「善良的人」在支持你的同時會誠實告訴你事情的真相，「好人」則可能因為擔心尷尬或傷害你當下的感受，而避免給予對未來有幫助的建議。
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nudge
有「輕微推動」某人的意思，也可以用來表示「輕輕的提醒或激勵」。
evolve
「進化、成長」
feedback
「反饋、建議」
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Kinda Nice不要當「好人」，當個「善良的人」
A kind person will help you understand reality
as it is
,
prompt
you to reflect, and
nudge
you to
fine-tune
your position till you get to a place where your resolution is helpful for you. A nice person will tell you what feels good - and often what you think you want to hear at that time - even if it doesn’t help you move past that situation.
... as it is 指「不受扭曲或主觀影響的真實樣貌」
Ex. She presented the issue as it is, without omitting anything or deflecting responsibility. 她如實呈報了問題，完全沒有省略任何事情或推卸責任。
一個善良的人，會幫助你看清現實的樣子，
引導 (prompt)
你思考，然後
輕輕推 (nudge)
你一把，讓你
調整 (fine-tune)
自己的立場，直到找到真正對自己有幫助的方向。
一個「好人」呢，則是會說些讓你聽了舒服的話——通常是你當下想聽的那些話——即使這些話，並不能真正幫助你走出那個困境。
A kind person supports you as you adapt, grow, and evolve. They remind you that evolving as a human being isn’t
something to be ashamed of
. That everything evolves, and that’s life’s greatest accomplishment and reward.
「善良的人」會在你適應、成長和改變的過程中支持你。他們提醒你，自我改變並不是
一件值得羞愧的事情 (something to be ashamed of)
。他們會告訴你一切都在不斷變化，這是生命最大的成就和獎賞。
A nice person likes the version of you they know and wants you to
keep that version
, even at the risk of losing your place in the future. They are trying to
shield
you
from
the pain that comes from evolving - the experience of failing, learning, and improving into something new.
shield ..A.. from ..B.. 保護 A 不受 B 的影響
Ex. Parents try to shield children from the harsh reality. 家長試圖保護孩子不受殘酷現實的影響
「好人」喜歡他們所認識的你，並希望你
保持原樣 (keep that version
保持原來的版本
）
，即使這有可能導致你在未來失去立足之地。一個「好好先生」喜歡他所認識的那個版本的你，並希望你一直維持那個樣子，即使這可能讓你在未來失去立足之地。他們想要保護你，不讓你經歷成長的痛苦——那種來自失敗、學習與蛻變的痛苦。
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