Kinda Nice 完整註解
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文中作者DAMOLA MORENIKEJI 比較了「好人」與「善良的人」兩者的區別。「善良的人」在支持你的同時會誠實告訴你事情的真相，「好人」則可能因為擔心尷尬或傷害你當下的感受，而避免給予對未來有幫助的建議。
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nudge 有「輕微推動」某人的意思，也可以用來表示「輕輕的提醒或激勵」。
evolve 「進化、成長」
feedback「反饋、建議」
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不要當“好”人，當個“善良”的人
A kind person will help you understand reality as
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A kind person will help you understand reality as it is, prompt you to reflect, and nudge you to fine-tune your position till you get to a place where your resolution is helpful for you. A nice person will tell you what feels good - and often what you think you want to hear at that time - even if it doesn’t help you move past that situation.
A kind person supports you as you adapt, grow, and evolve. They remind you that evolving as a human being isn’t something to be ashamed of. That everything evolves, and that’s life’s greatest accomplishment and reward. A nice person likes the version of you they know and wants you to keep that version, even at the risk of losing your place in the future. They are trying to shield you from the pain that comes from evolving - the experience of failing, learning, and improving into something new.
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... as it is 指「以事物真實的狀態，不受扭曲或主觀影響」
Ex. She presented the issue as it is, without omitting anything or deflecting responsibility. 她如實呈報了問題，完全沒有省略任何事情或推卸責任。
shield ..A.. from ..B.. 保護 A 不受 B 的影響
Ex. Parents try to shield children from the harsh reality. 家長試圖保護孩子不受殘酷現實的影響
Ex. She presented the issue as it is, without omitting anything or deflecting responsibility. 她如實呈報了問題，完全沒有省略任何事情或推卸責任。
shield ..A.. from ..B.. 保護 A 不受 B 的影響
Ex. Parents try to shield children from the harsh reality. 家長試圖保護孩子不受殘酷現實的影響
「善良的人」會幫助你看清現實，促使 (prompt) 你去反思，並激勵 (nudge) 你調整 (fine-tune) 你自己，直到你建立了對自己有益的人生目標 (resolution)。一個「好人」會告訴你令人愉快的事情，通常是你當下想聽到的話，即使這些話不會幫助你走出當前的困境。
「善良的人」會在你適應、成長和改變的過程中支持你。他們提醒你，自我改變並不是一件值得羞愧的事情 (something to be ashamed of)。一切都在不斷變化，這是生命最大的成就和獎賞。「好人」喜歡他們所認識的你，並希望你保持原樣 (keep that version 保持原來的版本），即使這有可能導致你在未來失去機會或發展空間。他們想要保護你免受改變所帶來的痛苦，這種痛苦源於改變過程中的失敗、學習、和進步成為嶄新的自己。